Every day I get new insights about CHOICES-and they always fall into one or more of the following categories: doing, saying, thinking, acting on, considering, ignoring, making, feeling, reacting/not reacting, responding/not responding....and hundreds more I have or haven't actively or consciously explored.
A little more than twenty years ago I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia-an auto-immune disorder that attacks the body's muscles and connective tissues. During a really severe exacerbation, I am literally bed-ridden for days, weeks, or even months at a time with muscle spasms, extreme fatigue, listlessness, sleeplessness, and the overall feeling of having a bad case of Flu with vast areas of the body screamingly painful and tender to touch; even the hair on my head seems to rebel if a comb or brush comes within close proximity, threatening to inflict torture. Without going into detail on the research and diagnostic suppositions regarding this disease, I'll simply say-IT'S NASTY! Thankfully, the debilitating episodes have become less frequent during this past year and major complaints have been limited to bouts of fatigue, muscle aches & spasms with tenderness and some limited mobility for shorter periods of time (days, rather than weeks or months), allowing me to function easier on a daily basis. I still have Fibro, but it doesn't have Me....at least not ALL the time. And, it's become more of a “mind over matter” thing...I “mind” and it still “matters”, but my conscious functionality is at a higher level.
So, where am I going with all this? About three weeks ago my husband and I returned home following a 2 month vacation driving up and down the West coast, going as far north as Victoria, BC. It was the first vacation time we had taken in 3 years because of his past ill health and it was time to “celebrate life”, so to speak. I did most of the driving and ALL of the trip planning and looked at it as a joyful challenge-most of the time. And here's the odd thing.....in spite of all the hours in the car, sleeping in beds I wasn't used to, hiking or taking long walks (sometimes as many as 7-9 miles in a single day while sightseeing)on all types of terrain, packing and unpacking, hoisting luggage and bags in and out of the car, and commuting on various forms of public transportation as a very active tourist, I never once experienced an entire day totally debilitated with a Fibro flare up. What's up with THAT? Why is it that doing normal household routines, or shopping at the grocery store, or running mundane errands, or sweeping the carport, or cooking a meal and doing dishes afterward can wipe me out and send me scrambling to the medicine cabinet for pain relief, a muscle relaxant, or something to help me sleep?
Mindset and choices-that's what it's all about. Now, I'm not saying that I didn't have some aches and pains and a little trouble sleeping during my vacation-I DID; however, the difference is that I clearly chose to set the physical feelings of discomfort aside and ENJOY the positive aspects of what was going on around me and what I was experiencing. And, I chose to immerse myself in the joy of my experiences, rather than in the possible negative consequences of exceeding my energy levels by saying to myself, “I may be overdoing it right now, but it's so worth it!” As a tool to keep me going I hung my camera around my neck and rarely experienced a day without it. I took thousands of pictures to capture the amazing moments we shared and the ones I experienced on my own. And now, as I review them and sort through them I have a another way to remind myself that I HAVE THE POWER to feel however I choose to feel on any given day at any given moment, for any amount of time. And THAT makes any aches, pains, fatigue, or hint of negativity that wants to attack me all the more worthwhile. It's a question of “Mind Over Matter'-I Mind and IT Matters.
Thank you all for letting me share my thoughts with you. Please send me your comments and for further information, please feel free to contact me at my website: www.fromme2youonline.com.
Sincerely,
Laurie Jo
Showing posts with label Faith. Show all posts
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Friday, October 16, 2009
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
A Question of Direction-When It's Time to Surrender
I believe that there are many people in this world who have built in radar, they were born being able to find their way, no matter where they are going in life. I especially believe this to be true when it comes to driving from one place to another. For some people, going from point “A” to point “B”, no matter how far or how many different routes have to be taken, is a no-brainer and as easy as snapping a finger. I am definitely not one of these fortunate people. As a matter of fact, I am quite certain that I was absent from school on the days that any form of navigation and maps was ever taught. I'm quite certain, although I've never been tested medically, that the part of my brain that can easily address the issues of navigation is totally missing. You can laugh at this or sympathize with me, but all I know is that getting hopelessly lost has been more the norm rather than the exception for most of my life-until recently. But I'm getting ahead of myself here.
I've always been fine with the basic concept of north, south, east, and west-at least when I looked at an atlas of the whole world. But if somebody giving me directions says, for example, “When you get to street “A” , turn east and drive to point “B”, then go north.” Not only would my eyes glaze over, but I would actually start to hyperventilate and tears would well up in my eyes as I started to look for the nearest escape from the crazy person trying to give me impossible directions that I had tuned out the minute he or she mentioned the word “east”. How could I admit that the only way I could handle any form of direction was to be told to go to a certain street, turn left or right, then to another street or road, then turn left or right, etc., without sounding totally like the moron I truly was? Often were the times that I would just say “thank you”, move on, and then look for somebody else to help me. When THAT didn't work, I would bite my tongue, take a breath and try to make a joke of it by saying, “I'm a bit navigationally challenged and don't do well with north, south, east, or west. Can you tell me to go either right or left?” The typical response (usually with what seemed a smile of pity), was, “Oh, sure. Let me draw you a map.” I would start to hyperventilate again before I managed to choke out, “No! Don't! I don't do maps either.” I knew what they were thinking....”What kind of idiot doesn't do maps?”
My mother, who has a perfect sense of direction and a photographic memory at 87 years old, used to tell me that I could get lost in a walk-in closet if it was big enough. I was quite certain she was right, which didn't help my problem any. But over my lifetime I have learned to accept my difficulties with navigation and have praised and applauded myself when I WOULD find my way from one place to another. I learned to allow myself a ridiculous amount of extra time before setting out for places unknown, and then pray I had allowed myself enough. If a journey seemed to far, I would make excuses for not accepting invitations if it meant I had to find my own way there, and then wallow in self-pity that I had to spend time all by myself rather than to accept the invitation. When I got married, I left the navigation to my husband and was so relieved that he didn't make fun of my lack of skills in this area. I think he realized that I had so many other redeeming qualities, (his words, not mine), why stress me out over it. That strategy worked for the first ten years of our marriage.
Three years ago I had to face my fears head on. He was hospitalized in a city we had never been in and would be unable to drive for 6 weeks. I had to find my way to and from the hospital from where I was staying with a friend, and then take him to all his different doctor appointments and rehab after he was discharged. It was time to surrender and let go of my fears. I forced myself to study maps of the area and to find alternate routes when construction would send me on detours. I did it through tears, frustration, anxiety, and triumph. I was woman, and you could hear me roar! A huge burden had been lifted from my shoulders and I could actually breathe normally when I asked for directions. I still got lost, but it didn't make me feel stupid anymore. I took on the challenges of navigation with great aplomb and sometimes even bragged to my closest friends that I hadn't got lost getting to their homes. I had surrendered big time and it felt wonderful!
When my husband suggested that we take a 2 month road trip to explore the West coast from top to bottom, I was excited to think that I would be planning the trip and doing all the navigating. I spent hours looking at maps and routes, and planning stops we would make. I went on the Internet to chart my course with Map quest and AAA and became obsessed with finding “just the right route” . My road atlas was so tattered and routes were so highlighted in yellow that I could barely read it anymore. This was a true sign I had evolved into a great navigator-right?
Just as I had finished with my lists of places to see, routes to take, and maps to use, my husband presented me with an early anniversary gift. With a smile from ear to ear he watched as I opened my gift. I was speechless as I stared at a Garmin GPS system. Why did I need this? I had already spent weeks planning our trip and was still basking in my ability to surrender my fears of getting hopelessly lost. Wasn't using a GPS cheating? Wouldn't it keep me from using my new-found skills as an accomplished navigator? I was staring at yet another form of surrender; AND, a whole lot of questions: how hard was it going to be to learn how to use it? How bad would I hurt his feelings if I said I really didn't need it? Could I use the GPS and the maps and lists I had so painstakingly made?
Here's the short version of what I did for 2 months on our road trip. I surrendered, AGAIN, to a certain extent. I consulted my map and lists for an overview of the trip as we went along. I used the GPS to calculate distance and time from one place to another and to direct me around bad roads and/or construction. When we needed a place to stay or eat, I used the incredible database to direct me (after consulting the Internet and my maps most of the time as well). It was also great for keeping me alert, since it had a great woman's voice that acted as a “driving pal”. I switched it to a man's voice when Jerry was driving so it didn't feel like another woman was telling him where to go...that was reserved for me, thank you very much!
I like to think, now, that surrendering isn't so bad after all. It's not easy, don't misunderstand that. But once you practice it over and over, it gets easier. A lot easier than stewing in your own juices and thinking that's the ONLY way to live. Trust me. I've been there...more times than I can even count. And I'm sure there will be many more times requiring my surrender in this lifetime....but what's the value of life and learning, without challenges?
Thank you for letting me share this part of my life with you.
From Me 2 You,
Laurie Jo
For more stories and information about Laurie Jo, please visit her website at: http://www.fromme2youonline.com.
I've always been fine with the basic concept of north, south, east, and west-at least when I looked at an atlas of the whole world. But if somebody giving me directions says, for example, “When you get to street “A” , turn east and drive to point “B”, then go north.” Not only would my eyes glaze over, but I would actually start to hyperventilate and tears would well up in my eyes as I started to look for the nearest escape from the crazy person trying to give me impossible directions that I had tuned out the minute he or she mentioned the word “east”. How could I admit that the only way I could handle any form of direction was to be told to go to a certain street, turn left or right, then to another street or road, then turn left or right, etc., without sounding totally like the moron I truly was? Often were the times that I would just say “thank you”, move on, and then look for somebody else to help me. When THAT didn't work, I would bite my tongue, take a breath and try to make a joke of it by saying, “I'm a bit navigationally challenged and don't do well with north, south, east, or west. Can you tell me to go either right or left?” The typical response (usually with what seemed a smile of pity), was, “Oh, sure. Let me draw you a map.” I would start to hyperventilate again before I managed to choke out, “No! Don't! I don't do maps either.” I knew what they were thinking....”What kind of idiot doesn't do maps?”
My mother, who has a perfect sense of direction and a photographic memory at 87 years old, used to tell me that I could get lost in a walk-in closet if it was big enough. I was quite certain she was right, which didn't help my problem any. But over my lifetime I have learned to accept my difficulties with navigation and have praised and applauded myself when I WOULD find my way from one place to another. I learned to allow myself a ridiculous amount of extra time before setting out for places unknown, and then pray I had allowed myself enough. If a journey seemed to far, I would make excuses for not accepting invitations if it meant I had to find my own way there, and then wallow in self-pity that I had to spend time all by myself rather than to accept the invitation. When I got married, I left the navigation to my husband and was so relieved that he didn't make fun of my lack of skills in this area. I think he realized that I had so many other redeeming qualities, (his words, not mine), why stress me out over it. That strategy worked for the first ten years of our marriage.
Three years ago I had to face my fears head on. He was hospitalized in a city we had never been in and would be unable to drive for 6 weeks. I had to find my way to and from the hospital from where I was staying with a friend, and then take him to all his different doctor appointments and rehab after he was discharged. It was time to surrender and let go of my fears. I forced myself to study maps of the area and to find alternate routes when construction would send me on detours. I did it through tears, frustration, anxiety, and triumph. I was woman, and you could hear me roar! A huge burden had been lifted from my shoulders and I could actually breathe normally when I asked for directions. I still got lost, but it didn't make me feel stupid anymore. I took on the challenges of navigation with great aplomb and sometimes even bragged to my closest friends that I hadn't got lost getting to their homes. I had surrendered big time and it felt wonderful!
When my husband suggested that we take a 2 month road trip to explore the West coast from top to bottom, I was excited to think that I would be planning the trip and doing all the navigating. I spent hours looking at maps and routes, and planning stops we would make. I went on the Internet to chart my course with Map quest and AAA and became obsessed with finding “just the right route” . My road atlas was so tattered and routes were so highlighted in yellow that I could barely read it anymore. This was a true sign I had evolved into a great navigator-right?
Just as I had finished with my lists of places to see, routes to take, and maps to use, my husband presented me with an early anniversary gift. With a smile from ear to ear he watched as I opened my gift. I was speechless as I stared at a Garmin GPS system. Why did I need this? I had already spent weeks planning our trip and was still basking in my ability to surrender my fears of getting hopelessly lost. Wasn't using a GPS cheating? Wouldn't it keep me from using my new-found skills as an accomplished navigator? I was staring at yet another form of surrender; AND, a whole lot of questions: how hard was it going to be to learn how to use it? How bad would I hurt his feelings if I said I really didn't need it? Could I use the GPS and the maps and lists I had so painstakingly made?
Here's the short version of what I did for 2 months on our road trip. I surrendered, AGAIN, to a certain extent. I consulted my map and lists for an overview of the trip as we went along. I used the GPS to calculate distance and time from one place to another and to direct me around bad roads and/or construction. When we needed a place to stay or eat, I used the incredible database to direct me (after consulting the Internet and my maps most of the time as well). It was also great for keeping me alert, since it had a great woman's voice that acted as a “driving pal”. I switched it to a man's voice when Jerry was driving so it didn't feel like another woman was telling him where to go...that was reserved for me, thank you very much!
I like to think, now, that surrendering isn't so bad after all. It's not easy, don't misunderstand that. But once you practice it over and over, it gets easier. A lot easier than stewing in your own juices and thinking that's the ONLY way to live. Trust me. I've been there...more times than I can even count. And I'm sure there will be many more times requiring my surrender in this lifetime....but what's the value of life and learning, without challenges?
Thank you for letting me share this part of my life with you.
From Me 2 You,
Laurie Jo
For more stories and information about Laurie Jo, please visit her website at: http://www.fromme2youonline.com.
Thursday, July 30, 2009
I Believe - Faith
I was recently reading a book to an elderly lady who is from Europe and has a hard time understanding English at times. The man in the book was talking about his Faith. She said "What is Faith?". First of all, I had never met an adult who didn't understand the word faith. I had no idea how to translate Faith in her native language. I told her that Faith is believing in something or someone without actually seeing it or having proof that it exists. She didn't understand. Faith is trusting that something that you are looking forward to will happen without knowing for sure. She still didn't understand. Faith is knowing in your heart that there is a higher power than us even though we have no logical proof. I just didn't seem to get through to her. I continued to give her examples to try to help her understand. Still nothing.
Could it be possible that this woman had gone through her entire life without having faith in anyone or anything, without ever trusting. It is almost sad to think about. She is someone who lets fear rule her life, so maybe she has no faith, in anything, therefore she wouldn't know what it is.
Where would I be today if I had no Faith that there was a God, Spirit, a Higher Power. It was impossible for me to even fathom. I have complete faith that Spirit guides me in my life. I rely on this guidance. I may not always think about it, but Faith it is. My heart feels it and my mind knows it. It is the most important thing in my life.
This is my absolute favorite saying:
When you have come to the edge of all the Light you have known
and are ready to jump into the Darkness,
FAITH
is knowing one of two things will happen.
You will either have something to stand on
or you will be taught how to fly.
Maybe this will help you to think about what you have faith in. I hope so.
Thanks for letting me share.
From Me 2 You Online,
Love, Peace, Joy, Faith,
Bonnie
For a Past Life Reading, a Spirit Guide Reading or a Star Matrix Healing, please visit my website at www.fromme2youonline.com.
Could it be possible that this woman had gone through her entire life without having faith in anyone or anything, without ever trusting. It is almost sad to think about. She is someone who lets fear rule her life, so maybe she has no faith, in anything, therefore she wouldn't know what it is.
Where would I be today if I had no Faith that there was a God, Spirit, a Higher Power. It was impossible for me to even fathom. I have complete faith that Spirit guides me in my life. I rely on this guidance. I may not always think about it, but Faith it is. My heart feels it and my mind knows it. It is the most important thing in my life.
This is my absolute favorite saying:
When you have come to the edge of all the Light you have known
and are ready to jump into the Darkness,
FAITH
is knowing one of two things will happen.
You will either have something to stand on
or you will be taught how to fly.
Maybe this will help you to think about what you have faith in. I hope so.
Thanks for letting me share.
From Me 2 You Online,
Love, Peace, Joy, Faith,
Bonnie
For a Past Life Reading, a Spirit Guide Reading or a Star Matrix Healing, please visit my website at www.fromme2youonline.com.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
The Shack - Book Review
A friend of mine sent me a wonderful book the other day. The book was so good I finished it in one day. It is called "The Shack" by William Paul Young.
It is a story about a man who had a very hard childhood. His father was an alcoholic and beat him. Then after he was married and had a family, he had something very traumatic happen. He blamed God for this. So God wrote him a letter inviting him to meet with God. The man decides to take him up on the invitation. Since the man had never known a loving father, it is hard for him to trust God. God shows him in a very caring and often humorous way that he is loved. The conversations the man had with God were so insightful that I know the book had to be Divinely inspired. What validated this thought for me was an acknowledgement in the book that the author only had $200 for an advertising budget and because of word of mouth, it is now on the New York Times Best Seller List. With God, you don't even need an advertising budget. He takes care of everything for you.
"The Shack" is an amazing story that will make you laugh and cry and possibly change the way you think about your relationship with God. I recommend it highly.
Thanks for letting me share this with you.
Have a miraculous day.
From Me 2 You Online
Bonnie
It is a story about a man who had a very hard childhood. His father was an alcoholic and beat him. Then after he was married and had a family, he had something very traumatic happen. He blamed God for this. So God wrote him a letter inviting him to meet with God. The man decides to take him up on the invitation. Since the man had never known a loving father, it is hard for him to trust God. God shows him in a very caring and often humorous way that he is loved. The conversations the man had with God were so insightful that I know the book had to be Divinely inspired. What validated this thought for me was an acknowledgement in the book that the author only had $200 for an advertising budget and because of word of mouth, it is now on the New York Times Best Seller List. With God, you don't even need an advertising budget. He takes care of everything for you.
"The Shack" is an amazing story that will make you laugh and cry and possibly change the way you think about your relationship with God. I recommend it highly.
Thanks for letting me share this with you.
Have a miraculous day.
From Me 2 You Online
Bonnie
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Our Greatest Fear...
I talked to one of my best friends this morning and she was saying she has always been embarrassed when someone talks about her abilities, her gifts and/or how special she is. She has fought this for most of her life and while talking to her about it, I realized that the same thing has been true for me. While talking to her about it, I remembered a quote from Marianne Williamson, found it online, sent it to her and I have enclosed it here for all of you to read and also take to heart. We are all special and we are all meant to shine! Please read and know you are GREAT!
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
This was given to us by Marianne Williamson and my wish for myself and all of humanity is that we take this to heart and manifest our greatness in everything we think and do.
Thank you for sharing your time with me. You are appreciated!
From Me 2 You Online
Laurie
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
This was given to us by Marianne Williamson and my wish for myself and all of humanity is that we take this to heart and manifest our greatness in everything we think and do.
Thank you for sharing your time with me. You are appreciated!
From Me 2 You Online
Laurie
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Words to live by from The Peaceful Warrior
Be Happy ALL the time, without a reason in the world
Emotions change- But, beneath it all, is the simple perfection of our lives unfolding
Sometimes you have to lose your mind before you come to your senses
Be conscious about your choice, and responsible for your actions
Life’s biggest picture and promise is FULFILLMENT, HAPPINESS & PEACE
To create a talent for Living, we must gather information from inside ourselves
Self-realization is to discover joy and peace in one’s self
Find out where your joy comes from and tap it every day
Thank you for letting me share these thoughts with you. For more information and 'sharing of thoughts' please visit my website at: www.fromme2youonline.com
In all things and in all life - Do No Harm.
From Me 2 You Online
Laurie Jo
Emotions change- But, beneath it all, is the simple perfection of our lives unfolding
Sometimes you have to lose your mind before you come to your senses
Be conscious about your choice, and responsible for your actions
Life’s biggest picture and promise is FULFILLMENT, HAPPINESS & PEACE
To create a talent for Living, we must gather information from inside ourselves
Self-realization is to discover joy and peace in one’s self
Find out where your joy comes from and tap it every day
Thank you for letting me share these thoughts with you. For more information and 'sharing of thoughts' please visit my website at: www.fromme2youonline.com
In all things and in all life - Do No Harm.
From Me 2 You Online
Laurie Jo
Monday, June 1, 2009
I Believe - Balance is the Key
I believe we need a "balance" in life. Balance of career - family - material possessions - religious beliefs - love. How do we find "balance"? I believe we make sure we follow a few principles of life.
Honesty is first and foremost on my list. This will shape what is to come. Honesty with ourselves in what we want in life, what we believe in, what we can accomplish, what we can give. If we can be honest with ourselves, we can be honest with others.
Keeping our word - Trustworthiness. People who can be trusted are always in balance. What you give to others always returns rewards to us.
Finding the talents given us and sharing them is where joy is found and helps with our balance. Talents can lead us in our careers and some are passed down to generations. Great books are written, songs are sung, music is played, movies are produced, a message is delivered, peoples lives are changed.
Finding "balance" by sharing our beliefs gives wisdom, joy and understanding to others. Share your beliefs with family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, the world. What you feel in your heart can be shown and shared from your belief and the balance you have in your life.
Your passion, your awareness of the world and circumstances around us can affect our balance. The way we use this balance is a way of giving to ourselves and to others. A "balance" between work and play can help relieve stress, physical conditions, fatigue and provide the necessary ingredients we need.
Being there for each other physically and emotionally and encouraging each other to be the best you can be can acquire "balance".
Find a balance of money and possessions. Support yourself and your family, but don't forget to give your wisdom, your time and your love to everyone needed.
'I Believe' we can work at finding a "balance" that works for each of us.
Thank you,
Barb
For more information or to share your "I Believe" thoughts, please visit us at: www.fromme2youonline.com
Honesty is first and foremost on my list. This will shape what is to come. Honesty with ourselves in what we want in life, what we believe in, what we can accomplish, what we can give. If we can be honest with ourselves, we can be honest with others.
Keeping our word - Trustworthiness. People who can be trusted are always in balance. What you give to others always returns rewards to us.
Finding the talents given us and sharing them is where joy is found and helps with our balance. Talents can lead us in our careers and some are passed down to generations. Great books are written, songs are sung, music is played, movies are produced, a message is delivered, peoples lives are changed.
Finding "balance" by sharing our beliefs gives wisdom, joy and understanding to others. Share your beliefs with family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, the world. What you feel in your heart can be shown and shared from your belief and the balance you have in your life.
Your passion, your awareness of the world and circumstances around us can affect our balance. The way we use this balance is a way of giving to ourselves and to others. A "balance" between work and play can help relieve stress, physical conditions, fatigue and provide the necessary ingredients we need.
Being there for each other physically and emotionally and encouraging each other to be the best you can be can acquire "balance".
Find a balance of money and possessions. Support yourself and your family, but don't forget to give your wisdom, your time and your love to everyone needed.
'I Believe' we can work at finding a "balance" that works for each of us.
Thank you,
Barb
For more information or to share your "I Believe" thoughts, please visit us at: www.fromme2youonline.com
Saturday, March 14, 2009
How To Work Around ‘A No Guarantee Garden’
Gardens, just like your life, can be likened unto a road-trip. There are long, short, smooth, rocky, crooked and straight roads. The same can be said for gardens. Just like your life, a garden can have corners, detours, and crossroads. Definitely the most confusing scenario that you can experience is a crossroad. With four choices to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they will take you, which one do you choose? There are no guarantees. This is one of the most essential aspects you must understand about your life and your garden. Nobody ever said that always choosing the right thing would always lead you to happiness. What was that song – ‘I never promised you a rose garden’? Well, you can be sure of one thing in both your life and your garden and that is ‘The only constant in life and your garden, is that it will change’.
Loving your garden and seeing the perfection of your garden upon completion, is of the utmost importance, but one also needs to have an awareness that there is no guarantee it will stay this way. As in life, hard work and continual care will help maintain its beauty, but there is no guarantee it will bring you happiness. There are many potential problems, such as bugs, disease and weather, over which you have no control. The only thing you can control is how you react to the situation and what decision you will make.
Each decision doesn’t come with a guarantee of success. Hindsight is usually 20/20 and if you had known you were making an erroneous decision, would you still have gone with it? Definitely not, why would you have chosen that particular plant or tree knowing it wasn’t going to work? However, think about what you did learn as a result of that decision? There is always something good that comes from every decision and/or choice we make. Was there a lesson to be learned? We do know that every decision we make brings us more information and it also brought you to where you are today.
Don’t get stuck trying to decide whether your choice is right or wrong. This will cause you to be immobile. Know that there is no right or wrong for your garden. There are only ‘different’ decisions. If you ask four of your friends which choice you should make, you will get four different answers. They are neither right nor wrong – they are only different. You need to keep moving along your own path and sometimes that means having blind faith in yourself and your decision-making. You have all the information you need inside your head, heart and your ‘self’. If you take the time to know yourself and what you want from life and your garden, you can better your chances of making wise decisions, even when there are unknowns involved.
Gardens, and life, can be an exciting, rewarding and fulfilling adventure. Even though the garden in your life can be long, short, smooth, rocky, crooked or straight, don’t let indecision find you sitting on the bench and watching it pass you by. Even though there are no guarantees when it comes to a successful garden, risk it, take that chance, and you will never regret that you did and that is a guarantee!
Thank you for sharing your time with Me.
From Me 2 You Online.
Loving your garden and seeing the perfection of your garden upon completion, is of the utmost importance, but one also needs to have an awareness that there is no guarantee it will stay this way. As in life, hard work and continual care will help maintain its beauty, but there is no guarantee it will bring you happiness. There are many potential problems, such as bugs, disease and weather, over which you have no control. The only thing you can control is how you react to the situation and what decision you will make.
Each decision doesn’t come with a guarantee of success. Hindsight is usually 20/20 and if you had known you were making an erroneous decision, would you still have gone with it? Definitely not, why would you have chosen that particular plant or tree knowing it wasn’t going to work? However, think about what you did learn as a result of that decision? There is always something good that comes from every decision and/or choice we make. Was there a lesson to be learned? We do know that every decision we make brings us more information and it also brought you to where you are today.
Don’t get stuck trying to decide whether your choice is right or wrong. This will cause you to be immobile. Know that there is no right or wrong for your garden. There are only ‘different’ decisions. If you ask four of your friends which choice you should make, you will get four different answers. They are neither right nor wrong – they are only different. You need to keep moving along your own path and sometimes that means having blind faith in yourself and your decision-making. You have all the information you need inside your head, heart and your ‘self’. If you take the time to know yourself and what you want from life and your garden, you can better your chances of making wise decisions, even when there are unknowns involved.
Gardens, and life, can be an exciting, rewarding and fulfilling adventure. Even though the garden in your life can be long, short, smooth, rocky, crooked or straight, don’t let indecision find you sitting on the bench and watching it pass you by. Even though there are no guarantees when it comes to a successful garden, risk it, take that chance, and you will never regret that you did and that is a guarantee!
Thank you for sharing your time with Me.
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